The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love and respect their mother. No family is perfect but the role of the father remains the same – the head and provider of his family.
Even if you are separated, treat your children’s mother with respect, even if it is not reciprocated. Never disgrace your wife because she is the mother of your kids. The respect must still be there no matter what happened because what’s important is the welfare of your kids.
Make sure that your children know you love them no matter what. Don’t confuse this with permissiveness. Unconditional love has nothing to do with encouraging the wrong kind of behavior. In fact, kids who are secure in their father’s love tend to act out less, not more. Remember, an action is better than words. Never let your children insecure for fear of their father; rather make them secure by showing your priceless love. It does not have to be expensive but the care you give is more than worth any other gifts in this world. Take care of them with all your heart not because you want them to have a gratitude to you as their father.
As a father, you need to emotionally and psychologically mature. Children don’t want another buddy. What they want is a dad. They want someone who thinks things through, makes tough decisions and engages life with responsibility. Someone they can count on no matter what happens.
As a responsible father, provide your family as best as you can. Though providing the basic necessities in life can be tough when a father does not have a job. The least you can do is to always provide a stable home with love and affection. This is very important if you want to build a harmonious relationship with your family. Money is not everything in life but love and respect matters.
If children are showered with love and respect, basically, they will grow up loving and respectful because the father figure is their model. Kids who learn how to duck responsibility and avoid cost will – sooner or later – fall flat on their faces. Loving fathers make sure their children know how to own up the consequence of their actions and move forward.
The simple goal of parenting our children doesn’t look any more complicated than equipping them well so that when they leave home, they know how to establish fruitful and productive lives.
Remember, the best predictor of happiness in children is the happiness and security in their family especially with their parents. If we teach our kids to persevere in life, then they will be well prepared to survive no matter how many setbacks they encounter along the road.
As a father, once you have children; your life changes. There is one thing that a father can do which can have the greatest impact on his children’s lives and that is to love their mother. When the kids see dad loving mom, then they see what love looks like.