When we look at parental favoritism, there are several parameters, like the child’s age, birth order, their personality, and even gender that determine the behavior of the parents towards their children. Apart from kids, surprisingly, even adults are – to a certain extent – victims of favoritism played by their parents. The reasons in this regard could be existence of stepchildren, or it may have to do with education and career-related issues.
Now, since we know that there is a thin line of difference between parents’ differential treatment towards their children and favoritism, it will be easier to cope with the situation. Following are the ways you can attempt to deal with the problem of favoritism.
Also, the way of communication should be proper to avoid conflicts and grievances resulting from them that could continue throughout life. Keep your voice low, and be polite in your approach. Maintain proper body language and avoid pointing or using any other unnecessary gestures. They are your parents after all; deal with them respectfully. Also, avoid making direct accusations, as it may hurt them, and if the accusations turn out to be false at the end, they will be even more hurt and you will also carry the guilt in mind for a long time.
Although it is really hard to believe and accept that parents do not love all their children alike, if such a situation arises, it affects all the members involved in this act, i.e., the child who is favored, the child who is neglected, and the parents themselves. The neglected child goes through a traumatic experience and feels low, while the favored child lacks the confidence, decision-making capacity, and becomes a dependent soul. Also, a kind of rivalry emerges between the siblings, and the favored child receives resentment from the other. The parent gets so involved in the child, that it is difficult to keep him/her out of sight in an extreme case.